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Hi robynmelvillesmith,

Money is worthless if you are not happy or doing something you hate .

Getting to learn french will give you later the opportunity to get a well paid job that you like and suit your skills.

Its an investment for the future and worth trying as it might help you a lot to better settle in France.

Good Luck

I think its a great idea! Hey, I went to school for 8 years part time to get the job I have, and there are times I'd drop it for a serving job. It can't be that good for you getting all the negative feedback either. Must be discouraging. The language program is a wonderful idea and I think you've got yourself a guy with a good head on his shoulders!

Do not. Repeat do not. Give up any job in France, voluntarily !

Quite how you got one without fluent (mother tongue) French astounds me, you will never get another, unless all your qualifications are transferable, translated, recognised and authorised. French employers will always employ a French national before anyone else.

Learning French. The only serious motivation after pillow-talk is the work-place, without the pressure to deliver, you will not learn. Unless you have staggering self-discipline and are a natural linguist.

Are you going backwards ? - Yes. You've moved to France, at least half of the nation live in 1976, have you listened to the radio ? Watched the TV ? The only pop-star is a Belgian OAP who advertises sunglasses. Ask your boyfriend what music he listened to as a kid...

Should you dump your French boyfriend ? Hey, only you know the real answer to that.

My very best wishes,

Arkan (11 years in France, officially old, wizened and grumpy)

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your comments - I really appreciate it!
I was lucky enough to ask work for 6 months off and they said yes!! Whooo!

Thanks once again, you are all very kind

Hi there,
I think its a great idea too, a good way to master the language and that will really change your life here in a good way,
It requires an intensif serious effort for a while (been there done that !) like total immersion, but you will feel so much happier, confident and comfortable afterwards.
I started here that way, been in France 20 years, fluent now (thankfully should I say) and never looked back since !

I used to live in Lyon too, its a beautiful city,
Best of luck,
Trish.

Hi Robin !
  It's OK don't worry , you 'll  learn french easier that way , and after you 'll have much more opportunities to get a better job ,for sure ... just because you speak english too !!
    I 'm French living in Nancy just 4 hrs by car from Lyon .I love this beautiful city where I use to come time to time for my work !!
People will welcome you better if they see you make efforts to speak in french and they love english accent !!
So do sacrify your job for a while and it's a good idea to work in a bar ,because there ,you're sure to practice and learn a lot typical  french expression !!!
   Be brave girl ,even if it's hard to be here , I know how it is because I lived abroad a long time and now i intend to imigrate in Indonesia !!!

Thanks everyone, you are all very kind!!!!!!!

Sometimes, money isn't everything. If you get that job as a waitress, you'll have some money. You'll leave a job that you hate and become fluent in the laguage of the country you chose to live. It is a good move, not a bad one.
I left a very well paid job I liked in California, a place that most people want to go to, to follow my wife in eastern TN to a place that better fits us and that we fell in love with. We just didn't want to live there anymore.

Hi There hop your well and things are getting easier for you, reading your post made me think of myself ( selfish I know ) I got married and moved to France In 2008 as my Husband is French a few months later I was back in the UK as I ended up with depression. lol . I laugh but it was pity serious at the time.

My Husband has lived in the UK for 3 years now but is sick of the Country and has decided were moving back to France.

Im petrified of losing my independance, I dont speak a word of French and just didnt seem to pick it up.

I hope it gets easier for you, now that I have said yeah we will move back my mind and heart say No No No dont do it, but its a bit too late for that my mouth agreed.

I will be living close to Paris, this time it will be even harder as I will have a New Born and a Toddler, yes allots happened since 2008.