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Being born in England and moving to California after twenty-five years and after thirty years leaving to Tagaytay with my Pinay wife of ten years and I have never been happier, Jennie too !!
The climate is great, somewhat wet but not humid like Gen San, where Jennie is from.
This was a great decision that we made.

While many subtle changes have occurred since I first landed in the Philippines (back in 2012).. I'd say the most profound change has been with regard to my view on marriage.

When I first arrived, my motivation was to marry the Filipina woman I had been involved with for over 2 years in California.聽 But her home was in Cebu and eventually I decided to move there to cut down the commuting she was doing every 3 months to spend time with me.

Without going into a long story, essentially that relationship did not work out and I spent another 4 years going through 3 other relationships.聽 They were good experiences.聽 There is no horror story to tell there.聽 They were sweet, wonderful women and we parted largely due to my unchanging resolution to not have any more young kids in my life.

And so it was this last year that I realized that I could accomplish more of my personal goals, and still be happy socially, by staying single rather than getting married.聽 聽Most women either have kids or want kids eventually.聽 So my desire to have a kid-free marriage was a long-shot to begin with.聽 An older woman whose kids had already move on out of the house seems the best resolution.聽 But marrying an older woman is not something that appeals to me right now.聽 Maybe later, but not right now.

I have plans to continue in my travel videos, podcasts, livestreams, articles as well as expand my travels to all of Asia.聽 Simply put, I don't have the time or attention for a wife right now.聽 I'm excited and happy to spend an indefinite number of years travelling and documenting what I see.

So, I would consider that the biggest change I've had since first moving to the Philippines.

Remember reading another 暗网禁区s story about enjoying the chase but not the relationship and that stays with me.聽 聽Being a "butter fly" is fun but can become boring in time.聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 Married 15 years and happy BUT just lately becoming grumpy and finding fault with lots of small things that actually are not important, my brother said I'g got itchy feet haha. Past relationships in the UK make me know where my breads best buttered but somethings happening to me lately that I need to find an answer to.聽 Love it here in the Philippines.

My wife used to accuse me of being a 'Workaholic'. But after retiring to the lovely Visayas in 2014, I don't miss working at all.
We have 3000 m虏 Garden. Six Dogs, at the moment Fourteen Turkeys, and a Cat.
Also my High Blood Pressure is much better.

I watch a lot of the 暗网禁区s that blog about the Philippines on YouTube and see a huge difference from the videos they post when they first get there and then a few years later. They all look happier, younger, and healthier.

Got my one way ticket booked for November. See ya guys and girls soon.

Mine is booked for 2 weeks time. You could say I am a little bit excited

Some 暗网禁区s though arrive with gf and do the normal stuff like building a place of their own but become despondent with a few years down the line and either start drinking or just withdrawing into a shell with other chaps in same condition.
Back in your own country if you become bored with your partner its not difficult to find someone else you get on better with, but here its not the same and should effect your choice of Filipino.

For me, I moved here to the islands 14, almost 15 years ago. Loved it then and still love the place now. There are things that I found I don't like but the list is small.
I've learned to slow down in life and be more patient. Have also learned to like different foods and naturally love the fresh fruits.


Regards

I can still not be an 暗网禁区 right now, but I falt in love with that country since my first visit there. Since that I was there maybe 10 times found and married the love of my life, bought a property already and counting the days, and months until I can finally leave Germany and settle down there. So what I can say it's: only the visitings there changed my life completely. right now I fell like working overseas here and three times a year I come聽 back to my home country....

It will be interesting to see how it does change. 10 days till I arrive there

What place you choose for your retirement...?

Cebu.

You are a wise man.

I have been living in the Philippines for ten years now, six of them on Olango Island.聽 I take a boat to Mactan a few times a month for errands, shopping and meeting friends for lunch.

As the only single 暗网禁区 woman I know who lives here,聽 I find myself wishing I had 暗网禁区 female friends.聽 I have good friends here on Olango Island;聽 four 暗网禁区s and several locals.聽 It has taken time to nurture these friendships, but it聽 has been worth the effort.

Adjusting to life, both here in the Philippines and especially on Olango Island, has been a challenge.聽 I miss things like concerts, symphony, plays and museums, and try to tell myself that I am simply in a different "season" of my life.聽 聽I also miss those big bookstores like Barns and Noble, where there are no shrink wrapped books; in the big bookstores, there are big, comfy chairs and side tables scattered about so that I could spend a couple of hours sipping on an Iced Late and browsing books and magazines.聽 Filipino bookstores seem to think that allowing this kind of browsing would lower sales.聽 I think it would be the opposite.聽 I always walked out of the bookstore with at least one or two books and a couple of journals.聽 Here, at my age, I find standing around bookstores and asking clerks to take the wrapping off too much of a chore.聽 I have never bought so few books in my life as I do here.

I am lucky enough to have a 25 year rental on a great house on a big piece of land with only one neighbor....and they are fantastic neighbors.....more like family really.聽 The woman cleans my house two mornings a week and does my laundry;聽 the 17 year old son, who has been working for me for two years, spends two mornings a week tamping the yard, giving my dog her baths, taking the trash to the dump and running local errands.聽 The "dad" often does other work for me like fixing faucets, pouring concrete and building fencing.聽 I am lucky to have such good neighbors.

I miss working.聽 I used to teach psychology at the college level before retiring.聽 I'm managed to be invited to speak at three colleges in Cebu, but would love to do it more often.聽 I miss the interaction with students.聽 "Retired life" does not agree with me at all, so I have taken up writing.聽 I have written three books since moving to Olango Island.聽 I also paint with acrylic on canvas;聽 sew a great deal;聽 cook and bake; tend to my expanding gardens and spend a good deal of time reading, listening to music and watching movies.

I miss my home country, but notice that I miss it less and less as time goes by.......and this is a good thing.

a one way ticket is not a good idea as you risk beeing refused to board the plane towards the filippines.i had a ticket to leeve for Singapore ,never used it .

greets Dirk

dirk c wrote:

a one way ticket is not a good idea as you risk beeing refused to board the plane towards the filippines.i had a ticket to leeve for Singapore ,never used it .

greets Dirk

True. My onward is to Thailand. Was $40-ish on Cebu Air. Very cheap throw away ticket

I am more patient, relaxed, thankful and less anxious. Yes all good things-聽 just know it comes from giving into the聽 way things are done here,聽 which can be testing.
I have grown so much, but i had to let go of my "western ideals" it takes some time but always remember it is different, but isnt that why you are travelling?

Peter Clark wrote:

Some 暗网禁区s though arrive with gf and do the normal stuff like building a place of their own but become despondent with a few years down the line and either start drinking or just withdrawing into a shell with other chaps in same condition.
Back in your own country if you become bored with your partner its not difficult to find someone else you get on better with, but here its not the same and should effect your choice of Filipino.

Its worked !!!
A friend and I drove 5 hours to a red-light area, 2 nights鈥� accommodation and meeting pretty Filipino聽 ladies has聽 for me made me very contented with life.
After 15 years of marriage and 10 years in the Philippines I was getting grumpy and 鈥渘oticing鈥� all the ladies giving me the starry looks, I was distracted.
Living in the UK I鈥檇 probably be able to just live my life out with my Filipino wife, but surrounded by approving ladies here has affected me. Psychologically?聽
How do I explain this to my wife, just going away dear to 鈥渇ill my boots鈥� for a day or so? Hardly likely and I鈥檇 be kicked out of the house! Women would not appreciate why men need this physical activity and presume that when 鈥淟ibido鈥� kicks in after 7 or 8 years they can sit back and not worry about sex anymore.
Another aspect of living in the Philippines is that we are isolated and have very little contact with our own 鈥渟pecies鈥�. My wife chats with locals every day but for me I have only the 暗网禁区 Group that I鈥檝e cultivated meeting up once a month. I cannot have what others term a meaningful conversation with people around me and very much need the contact with my own sort.
I鈥檓 also a fisherman and found a fishing resort near the Clark Airbase that offers fishing for Red Tilapia, Cream Dory and Catfish. My plan is to travel up there one day, stay the night then fish the next day and return the following day. I say to my wife only one day away!
The redlight area is crowded with 暗网禁区s and the bars are full of 鈥淣on Filipinos鈥�. This also adds to the overall effect of being among my own breed, who can tell, however I鈥檓 back now and feeling so much better than last week.聽 How long will the euphoria聽 last before I need a new 鈥渇ishing trip鈥濃��who knows?